For anyone unfamiliar (there may be a few), Debbie Downer is a character, made famous by Rachel Dratch on Saturday Night Live, who managed to find the negative in just about any situation, to often hilarious effect. Indeed, the Debbie Downer sketches were so deadly funny that they frequently caused SNL cast members to “break character,” unable to contain their own laughter during the live segment.
While someone like Debbie makes for a killer comedy skit, behaving as she does not make for an engaging presence in the online social space. Shoot, it’s not engaging in any space, online or off.
I wouldn’t for a moment suggest that you must be 100% happy-dappy cheerful all the time. We all have our moments, and it would be inauthentic to filter out every kvetch and every complaint. Life has its ups and downs, after all, and your social media presence should reflect who you really are. But overdoing it on the negative is maybe not the way you want to go.
Some people can reliably be counted upon to complain like clockwork on Twitter or Facebook about whatever particular issue is bugging them that day, be it a headache, Microsoft, hot weather, cold weather, out-of-season weather, lousy software, a bad lunch, watered-down coffee, Apple, that stupid time-wasting meeting, etc. Don’t be one of those people. It doesn’t make the best impression.
And if you’re looking to do business or further your career in the social space, this advice applies double. Don’t give people a reason to say no to working with you before the opportunity even presents itself.
If you tend to complain about work-related issues like the boring meeting you’re in, or the mindless drudge work you’ve just been assigned, stop and ask yourself: “Is this really the impression I want to give my coworkers, or my boss, or that guy I want to hire me?”
It can be very easy to fall into a pattern of complaining and negativity. With some focused attention and self-awareness, it’s a trap that can be avoided. Next time you feel the need to let the world know about your aching back or your lousy morning commute, take a deep breath, step away from the keyboard, and consider letting the impulse pass…